What can I do, right now, to serve my family, to help us be in our best possible relation with each other and with life?
Not what could I have done last night, last week, last year, 5 years ago. That can be tempting to think about, but it distracts me from my real power, here and now.
And not what can I do after the kids leave for school, when I talk to that teacher, over the summer (even though it's almost here), when things calm down, or next year. These moments, when and if they happen, will need my presence then, but I'm not there yet.
Right now, this day, this moment, what can I do? Starting with bringing my awareness fully into my body, feeling that I am here. Taking a full breath, feeling the inbreath open me, feeling the pause, and feeling the outbreath release.
This moment, the one I'm in right now, is the only one that ever is. Bringing my whole presence to it is my greatest work. Whether this moment is a quiet one downstairs before anyone is up, a moment of emotion or reactivity (mine or someone else's), one that is dull routine like driving to school or brings unexpected news. A meeting, a conversation, cooking a meal. I am here.
As a mom (to 2 teenage sons), wife, and person in the world, I have been on a long imperfect journey. I have made many mistakes, but with mindfulness, emotional reflection, and lots of support I have learned enormously from those mistakes.