There are times, as a parent of older kids, to be weird and wonderful, and other times to just stop being weird. The trick is to know which is which!
Sometimes when I'm with one of my kids and some of their friends, it's clear that they're embarrassed enough just to HAVE a mom, it's not the time to talk much. Other times I feel moved to speak, asking a question or telling a little story. It may be a little awkward, but that's a part of life, right?
I hope my kids will keep learning that it's okay to be kind of weird, to say things that are true and real sometimes, even if they're unfamiliar or a little uncomfortable. I hope they'll see that you can be sensitive to someone's feelings and responsive, and still be your own self in goofy ways.
I hope I'll keep learning how to be my own real self even when someone doesn't appreciate it! And I hope that I keep learning how to back off and stop being weird when necessary.
As a mom (to 2 teenage sons), wife, and person in the world, I have been on a long imperfect journey. I have made many mistakes, but with mindfulness, emotional reflection, and lots of support I have learned enormously from those mistakes.