As parents, we make mistakes. We fail our kids in little and sometimes big ways. We miss things we 'should' have noticed and get involved with things we 'should' have let go. There's a big difference between failing and being a failure, though.
Messing up is an opportunity to fix things, to learn, to see, to listen, and to be generous with yourself. Instead of dwelling in the past and beating ourselves up about a mistake, just be present with how things are now. Yes, maybe your little one is melting down because he needed a nap an hour ago but you decided to do one more errand. Yes, maybe you have let your child get in the habit of speaking to you kind of rudely. Yes, maybe you overreacted when your teen made a mistake.
Whatever the mistake is, be here with what's happening. Listen deeply, hearing what your child is saying and what their behavior tells you. Adjust! Make the change that needs to be made. Move on. Try to keep your eyes wide open without judging yourself.
I'm a person on a messy journey--healing, learning, discovering and rediscovering. Sharing, writing, talking, and teaching help me to understand myself and the world more clearly. I hope it can help make your journey a easier, too.