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Love Wisely and With Understanding

9/3/2016

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I work with parents because I listen to kids. Nearly every day I sit with young people, children, teens, teens, and young adults, and they tell me about their trauma. They don't usually tell me on purpose, complaining about their parents. Instead, they tell me indirectly.

They tell me how important it is to do the right thing, how ashamed they are of their mistakes and imperfections. They tell me in parent-words about their anxiety and how it would be good if they could just relax. Older ones tell me about what bad kids they were, how they used to be angry and temperamental, how they inconvenienced their parents, how they didn't listen.

They have absorbed so completely a parental perceptions and believe there's something wrong with them.

And the true tragedy is that each of their parents loves them intensely, but these children, teens, young adults, and grown up children don't feel it. Whether I'm talking to a child or tween, a teen or young adult, a young parent or someone whose kids are grown, I hear the imprint of conditional love, of feeling unworthy. And yet our parents loved us, probably in ways we can't even imagine. So what's the problem? If our parents loved and love us, why are we suffering?

It's because even the most loving parent may not know how to make people feel loved. We are so unskillful, not because we don't love enough but because we don't understand each other enough. And this can change! That's why I write every day. It's why I teach these classes on mindfulness and parenting. It's why I meet with kids and adults and parents and families each day. Because we can understand each other better. We can help our kids to feel loved and secure today, right now. We don't need more money or even more time. We don't have to be perfect. We don't have to give our children everything they want. We just have to love wisely and with understanding.

More on this all week!

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9/20/2016 06:23:33 am

Every parent has their own way on child rearing. Each of our kids have their own unique personalities so it's really hard to determine what way is the best in every child. The most common problem of parents is the lack of time to spend with their children. Because they want to give the best for their child, they work hard and become so absorbed with their work that they fail to pay attention to their kids. Every parent should make time to spend with their kids. Time is the best gift you can give to your child.

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9/20/2016 09:26:30 am

Thank you, customwritings.com! Yes, time is so important. And presence, because when we are with a child and truly with that child, time slows down and our hearts open up and the time becomes sacred and precious. Even the little moments of our lives with kids can be beautiful when we are truly present!

I wish you joy with your own child/children today!

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