![]() Yesterday's post, Love Wisely and With Understanding is about the pain, worry, and hurt that I see in kids (and former kids) when they think about themselves and their relationship with their parents. The pain is there even though their parents probably really loved them. Most of us don't think our kids feel this way, we believe that they know how much we love them, and they probably do. But most kids need to feel MORE loved, seen, understood, and appreciated than they do. So how do we do it? Here's a first step. Starting today, no matter what your relationship with your child (newborn or fully grown) has been, greet them in a loving way. When you see them next, don't remind them of a chore or fix their collar. Don't frown or scold. Don't even praise something they have done! Connect with them. You can smile, reach out your arms for a hug, and tell them how glad you are to see them. Just let yourself as a being slow down and smile at their sweet self. Start where it makes sense, don't force a hug if they don't want one, just meet them where they are and greet them in a connecting way. Make it a new habit to greet each child (even if they're tweens, teens, or even adults!) with a smile and a connection every single time you see them. It doesn't take much time. Please, let me know what happens when you do this today!
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9/20/2016 06:16:32 am
According to recent studies on child development, the child's relationship with their parents has an effect on the child's future relationship with other people. If the child was able to feel the love and security from his or her parents, the child will be able to connect freely from other people. It's true when you said that children might not know how much we love them. Sometimes, it's also good to be vocal about our feelings towards them. We have to be able to make them feel loved every single day.
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Hi bestessayhelpers.com, and thanks for you comment! It's so true, children depend deeply on their connection with us. There is wonderful research being done that can help us understand how important our love is to our children.
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