In the midst of the dark days, the days when nothing seems like it'll ever be okay again, there are seeds of wonder and joy. We can't see them, they're buried deep underground, but they are there. Children--and parents--have an enormous capacity to change, grow, forgive, and love when conditions are good.
How are things going right now in your family? Is there despair in you about something? Your marriage, your baby, your teen, your child's physical health or ability to learn? Or despair about yourself, the feeling that you aren't a good enough parent, aren't skilled enough, have the wrong personality?
Breathe and stay present.
Pay attention to anything, anything positive.
Keep on watering the seeds of love, joy, and goodness in yourself and your family.
Remember that you are a beautiful being.
Remember that your child is a beautiful being.
Be patient. Growing things take time!
As a mom (to 2 teenage sons), wife, and person in the world, I have been on a long imperfect journey. I have made many mistakes, but with mindfulness, emotional reflection, and lots of support I have learned enormously from those mistakes.