Power can come through several forms. Much of what we see is coercive power, which comes from using our bigger size/money/position/intellect to force others to do what we want. There's also power that comes with responsibility--the power to make choices as a parent or teacher or bus driver, for example. And then there's what I think of as innate power. This is the power of just being human.
When we bring our awareness inward and know ourselves, we connect with innate power. Leaning outward to control our children or circumstances wont connect us with that innate power. We can only access when we are rooted in ourselves.
When life is crazy busy, when the kids are misbehaving, when your to-do list seems endless, it's easy to get separated from your real power. It's easy to threaten or yell at the kids, because you are grasping after power. It's easy to get into arguments and conflicts that make everyone feel worse.
Instead, find even a small moment to stop.
To draw your energy inward and use it to notice how you feel.
To breathe into your own beautiful body.
To listen to your own beautiful feelings.
To notice your thoughts.
To get off the merry-go-round of trying to make other people change and settle into your true self.
Sometimes that moment is enough to change things. You child may curious about what you're up to and the energy shifts. Sometimes it just gives you the grace to slow down a bit and make a wiser choice in response to whatever is happening.
My life and work are guided by the these core understandings: that all beings (including me!) are capable of transformation and joy, that healthy parenting matters profoundly, and that simple practices can support each of us.