When things get hard, I can be quick to turn away from a situation in frustration. Again and again, I need to remind myself that love doesn't always look like I think. Sometimes I need to be more open and soft than I expect, other times I need to be willing to be firm. Some simple things I've noticed that love means for me are:
Trying again, even when I want to run.
Being patient enough to let someone find their own path.
Offering a kind word, even when I want to snap.
Listening. And listening more.
Ignoring things that are better ignored.
Telling the truth, even when I'm scared.
Looking carefully at my intent and purpose.
Being willing and able to say 'no'--in a loving way.
Caring for myself.
Finding my own freedom and honoring others' freedom.
Letting others forgive me.
Kindness rather than niceness.
Doing nothing together.
Trying new things.
Seeing the beloved's true self, even when they have lost track of it.
Being brave enough to let people see my vulnerability.
Needing and receiving help.
What else? Please add to this list with me!
My life and work are guided by the these core understandings: that all beings (including me!) are capable of transformation and joy, that healthy parenting matters profoundly, and that simple practices can support each of us.