Sometimes I'm just fed up with one of my kids or my husband or someone else in the world--an attitude, a mess, a way they've been careless. I get stuck mentally reviewing my grievances and their wrongdoing, my 'rightness' and their 'wrongness.'
When this happens, it feels really unpleasant. My heart closes, I feel unhappy, and nothing is fun. Letting go of the separation, to opposition, is necessarily for my own happiness and the relationship it's getting tangled up with.
By remembering that I love the person, that they are human just as I am, that this issue is not more important than our connection, I let go. I feel immediately better--lighter, happier, and more my true self. There may still be a disagreement or problem to work out, but I've reconnected with my own heart which is incredibly freeing.
Is there anything you need to let go of to make friends with your own heart? A way you're against somebody instead of with them? A way you're closed out of your heart? The courage that it takes will surely pay off for you and your loved ones.
My life and work are guided by the these core understandings: that all beings (including me!) are capable of transformation and joy, that healthy parenting matters profoundly, and that simple practices can support each of us.