I'm contemplating this morning wisdom from Lao Tzu thinking especially about my presence in relationships (with myself, my purpose, my kids and husband, the bigger community, and serving heartfully in the world). #selfcare #reallove
The end of summer can be a hard time for parents! If you are finding yourself thinking 'They shouldn't be this way,' consider a shift. What do YOU need? A two minute mindful practice, single yoga pose, or quick self-appreciation may sustain you so you can deal with how things are gracefully. #selfcare #onebreath #lovingourselves
It's not the symptoms that need our tenderest care, it's what's causing them. When we look deeper than a child's mood or words, we can start healing the root of the issue (which probably needs our understanding rather than 'fixing'). #backtoschool #reallove #imperfectmomming
When kids are in a transition they're putting lots of invisible energy into the crossing they're making. They are feeling stretched and may be extra tired, stressed, anxious, or just distracted. This is not the time to teach them everything we wish we had taught them before the transition! It's time to be steady and loving, non-reactive and calm. We may need extra emotional support from our own community in order to really be present for our kids.
Mistakes are normal!
By staying connected with our kids and curious about their choices, we keep the doors of communication open. When we share insights without trying to control their choices, we offer the best support for them to learn and grow.
A key aspect of heartfulness is to be open even to things that aren't pleasant. When we are open to unpleasant or challenging or uncomfortable situations, our hearts are also open to the good stuff!
It's not easy for most of us to accept discomfort, especially when what's happening feels like a big deal, so we start with small things. Today, following my last blog post about being aware of our senses, let's be aware of sensory experiences in a non-judging way.
Notice how you feel right now, what you sense in your body. Try noticing each experience with curiosity rather than judging. For instance, if you feel a sensation in your body, can you go beyond the immediate judgments that may come up, inner labels such as 'bad' or 'pain' or 'soreness.' What do you actually feel? Is it warm or cool? Pressure? Or emptiness? Movement? Numbness? Under the experience of 'pain,' what are the actual sensations?
Each time you notice a sensation today, see if you can go deeper than initial judgment and get to know it with curiosity.
Today, let's continue a heartful August by enjoying our senses!
If you would like to join me, stop and notice the beauty around you.
5 things you can see. . .
4 things you can hear. . .
3 things you can feel. . .
2 things you can smell. . .
And one especially wonderful thing you can taste. . .
My life and work are guided by the these core understandings: that all beings (including me!) are capable of transformation and joy, that healthy parenting matters profoundly, and that simple practices can support each of us.