Kids are so tender, so sensitive, and they need our love in a very personal, connected way. Even when they're difficult, they need to feel our love as a constant, abiding energy in their life.
There are times I notice myself getting annoyed and forgetting the connection with one of my kids. I may begin just mentally dwelling on their mistake, how they've wronged me. I may be ruminating on something they don't understand or aren't handling well. And my grievance is true, they have done something difficult. But I catch myself building a wall in my heart, closing myself off from the loving connection with them because I am too focused on the problem.
Do you ever do this?
I think we all do at times. We close ourselves off from things that hurt or confuse or upset, even these children we love so much.
When we see them as they really are, the beautiful and pleasing aspects as well as the challenging aspects, and we stay open to them, that is true love.
My life and work are guided by the these core understandings: that all beings (including me!) are capable of transformation and joy, that healthy parenting matters profoundly, and that simple practices can support each of us.